Practicing mental wellbeing and self-awareness
Mental illnesses should not be defined. It shouldn't even have a definition.
Unless you can take someone's consciousness and experience everything someone went through, you can't categorize their life and their being into categories just so it can be diagnosed and treated.
In my world, if you believe in mental illnesses we all have one. Whether you can overcome it with your own will or need the help of medications is another issue.
Overcoming it is on our own is hard so we all like to think that some things are out of our power. Sometimes it feels so hard to handle it on your own you just believe it the minute someone tells you so.
Depression is one that I believe is within our power to overcome. The biggest claim is that people who are depressed do not love themselves. But if you know how to love yourself, how does that work?
People who love themselves will subconsciously pull themselves out before they get so low. Sometimes many things happens all at once such that a person doesn't get a break to love themselves and before you know it, it's gone.
We go back to the hardest thing in life, loving yourself. Once we are low, we have to start from zero in trying to love ourselves again.
Loving oneself is not being selfish or thinking about one first.
It is self awareness of things that make us happy in life. Believing that we deserve that happiness and do everything in our power to seek it in order to regain happiness.
That thing could be money, family, love, world peace or even something as simple as achieving short term goals. In the process of obtaining things that make you happy you should be happy because you are getting closer to it everyday. If you denied what you need to make yourself happy or refuse to look into yourself to see what truly make you happy you are denying the love you should have for yourself.
People who fall into depression, in my experience, have no idea what makes them happy. At a young age money and big goals might make you happy but now it could be having a family. If you continue chasing money and goals, convincing yourself you can't have a family to obtain those goals then you will end up losing. If you were to realize that a family is what you really want, chasing money and goals because you know it will result in stable family then you would be happy despite anything coming at you.
Technically you are doing the exact same thing but what changes is you are assured that this will take you where you want to go. The mind and soul is being fed its desires.
We spend most of our teenage years planning and dreaming about our lives when we become an adult. When we become adults we think about how much we have changed but we neglect how our happiness might have changed too. We forget to think that our goals, dreams and things that once made us happy might not be making us happy anymore.
If you did take the time to do so and find that what I say is true about not remembering the last time you were happy, you suddenly realize you have no clue what makes you happy.
This is where you need to begin your search for you happiness. It's troubling because we think we should be happy with where we are. Happiness to come naturally, why does it not ?
When was the last time you smiled and laughed ? What were you doing then? Who were you with? What was your state of mind that day?
It's a lot of questions and a lot of work trying to answer those questions.
When you rediscover your happiness again without the need of pills to hide to deny your soul, you will realize you've been living life wrong for some time now.
As someone who is working hard to stop denying what I know I really need, I write this here as a reminder that when I do find pure happiness again, I will never let it go or blame myself when that same thing is no longer making me happy.
Remember , you have to want the happiness. You can lead the donkey to the river but you can't make it drink.
Unless you can take someone's consciousness and experience everything someone went through, you can't categorize their life and their being into categories just so it can be diagnosed and treated.
In my world, if you believe in mental illnesses we all have one. Whether you can overcome it with your own will or need the help of medications is another issue.
Overcoming it is on our own is hard so we all like to think that some things are out of our power. Sometimes it feels so hard to handle it on your own you just believe it the minute someone tells you so.
Depression is one that I believe is within our power to overcome. The biggest claim is that people who are depressed do not love themselves. But if you know how to love yourself, how does that work?
People who love themselves will subconsciously pull themselves out before they get so low. Sometimes many things happens all at once such that a person doesn't get a break to love themselves and before you know it, it's gone.
We go back to the hardest thing in life, loving yourself. Once we are low, we have to start from zero in trying to love ourselves again.
Loving oneself is not being selfish or thinking about one first.
It is self awareness of things that make us happy in life. Believing that we deserve that happiness and do everything in our power to seek it in order to regain happiness.
That thing could be money, family, love, world peace or even something as simple as achieving short term goals. In the process of obtaining things that make you happy you should be happy because you are getting closer to it everyday. If you denied what you need to make yourself happy or refuse to look into yourself to see what truly make you happy you are denying the love you should have for yourself.
People who fall into depression, in my experience, have no idea what makes them happy. At a young age money and big goals might make you happy but now it could be having a family. If you continue chasing money and goals, convincing yourself you can't have a family to obtain those goals then you will end up losing. If you were to realize that a family is what you really want, chasing money and goals because you know it will result in stable family then you would be happy despite anything coming at you.
Technically you are doing the exact same thing but what changes is you are assured that this will take you where you want to go. The mind and soul is being fed its desires.
We spend most of our teenage years planning and dreaming about our lives when we become an adult. When we become adults we think about how much we have changed but we neglect how our happiness might have changed too. We forget to think that our goals, dreams and things that once made us happy might not be making us happy anymore.
If you did take the time to do so and find that what I say is true about not remembering the last time you were happy, you suddenly realize you have no clue what makes you happy.
This is where you need to begin your search for you happiness. It's troubling because we think we should be happy with where we are. Happiness to come naturally, why does it not ?
When was the last time you smiled and laughed ? What were you doing then? Who were you with? What was your state of mind that day?
It's a lot of questions and a lot of work trying to answer those questions.
When you rediscover your happiness again without the need of pills to hide to deny your soul, you will realize you've been living life wrong for some time now.
As someone who is working hard to stop denying what I know I really need, I write this here as a reminder that when I do find pure happiness again, I will never let it go or blame myself when that same thing is no longer making me happy.
Remember , you have to want the happiness. You can lead the donkey to the river but you can't make it drink.
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| Here's Sophia Loren looking happy well into her years. Unaffected by what anyone think of her. She makes me happy. I want to smile like that one day. At this moment and forever more? My mom is the biggest happiness in my life. |
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